The root cause of our disappointment and Unhappy life is our “EXPECTATIONS”, from ourselves and from others. Expectation is a very basic human nature. Having expectation is as normal as breathing. we not only expect thing to happen in a certain way but also expect people to act or respond in a certain way. Intentionally or unintentionally, consciously or unconsciously we do it. Our expectations are mostly derived from our desires. 

We build a image of ourselves and our life in our head. Sometimes we idealized a person or a character and try to be like the one. ignoring the fact, every individual is different and have some individual characteristics. Same we do with the life; we idealized someone’s life without knowing his/her journey and the reality of the person’s life and start comparing our life. And both the situation leads us towards disappointment and unhappy life. Because every person is different, every person experiences are different, every person journey is different. And that’s make a difference. Our choices and priority also make a bigger difference. It can better understand this way if there are four kids in a family, if you ask, they all have different experiences, choices and priorities. Even though they born and brought up in same family, had same lifestyle, same education, same environment.

One having expectation for him or herself is not actually a bad thing. But like everything it also has many aspects. Our expectation serves us as a motivation as a guiding force that pushes us forward. But the downside is high expectation especially unrealistically high expectation often leads us towards disappointment, anxiety and self-doubt.

Expectation in any relationship very natural but quit overwhelming and mostly leave you with disappointment. Every relationship has mismatch expectation. Mostly because we ignore the fact that the we are expecting to act or behave in a particular way, is an Individual with his/her own experiences choices and priorities and most importantly personality and characteristics.

What we expect is always in accordance with our dreams, thoughts, feelings and desires. But what actually happen is nothing to do with any individuals expectations. We actually disregard the fact that fulfilment of expectation not only depends on our actions and efforts. It includes People around us political economical and social environment. We can make your decision control our actions, but we can’t make decision for people around us. We can’t control political, economical and social environment, not even other’s action. Basically, having an expectation is good, but we must have this realization as us others also have expectations and most probably, we are also not in accordance with their expectations. 

And there are things that beyond our control, doesn’t matter how much we try, We just can’t. So it’s better to be ready for things may not happen the way we are expecting. Being rigid is not going to help although it is going to harm only. So keep flexibility in your approach and keep your expectations reasonable from yourself and others.

                                                                  —– Twilight Haze —–